To have or not to have an affair

(mind you, the title does not mean that I am the person considering whether to have an affair or not)

As you may know I am kind of a fan of reading advice columns. In the olden days, I used to read the two (I think) columns that run in the Style section of the Washington Post, one of which is written by a lady named Carolyn and there are interesting little cartoons to accompany the columns (some days, at least). Now, I mostly read Slate's advice column and sometimes the NYT's Ethicist column although I have not read that one recently. 

One column that I read recently on Slate was about a person whose relative had gotten drunk and killed someone in an accident while driving. Obviously, this is an unfortunate situation to be in for both the relative and the person seeking advice. Another person was seeking advice on whether or not she should have an affair with a friend because her husband never wants to have sex with her even though she prances around in expensive fancy underwear. Firstly, an affair is very usually not a good idea which I would assume most people are aware of just due to common sense. Apparently this lady is not and thinks it could possibly have the chance of turning out well. The best solution, with the information given, is probably that she should get a divorce so she can sleep with people however often she likes. Maybe she could become a prostitute if she's so starved for sex. (please realize I'm being a little facetious here.) And she'd even be able to make money off of it that way. Although, it would definitely be a good idea for her to perhaps talk with her husband about this situation - perhaps he could offer some insight on why he doesn't want to have sex with her. Maybe he doesn't find her attractive. Or maybe he needs a prescription for Viagra. Maybe he finds it unappealing how clamorous she is about wanting to have sex and that puts him off even more from wanting to roll around naked in bed with her (or maybe not in bed. Maybe they are the type of people who like to do it in the shower, or in a tent underneath the night sky, or in a public place, etc). Etc. In my personal opinion, being married to someone like that (the wife, not the husband) would decidedly be a nightmare. It would be just unappealing to be married to someone who's always begging to have sex. Our advice column lady says she "doesn't see how he can be a good husband" if he doesn't have sex with his wife barely ever. Maybe he just doesn't like it. Some people aren't particularly fond of physical affection. 

In any case, this lady wouldn't have this problem in the first place if she hadn't married him - presumably she was aware that he didn't like to have sex that often before she married him. If it was so important to her to have sex a lot then maybe she should have married someone else who had similar desires. I guess she could always become a prostitute... although of course, I can't say that that would have any better of an outcome for her marriage as having an affair. She could just tell her husband that it's strictly business... I wonder if she has considered that option, to become a prostitute. It seems like it would satisfy her desire to have sex, at the very least. And like I said before, she could get paid for doing it, so... it couldn't really be all that bad. Or... assuming she fits his type, she could try to have an affair with Donald Trump because he really loves the ladies as various things that have come to light have revealed. And she would get lots of publicity for this, probably, assuming the affair became public knowledge, and it could be like Monica Lewinsky and Bill Clinton and Donald Trump could end up getting impeached! I see no losers here. Due to the publicity, she could find even more men to sleep with. She seems like the kind of person who wouldn't be totally opposed to having an affair with Donald Trump (never mind his orange wrinkly skin and those tiny hands.... he says there's no problem, but is he being honest??) because she apparently sees no issue with the concept of having an affair, so does it really matter who it's with? Are some affairs more wrong than others? A theoretical scenario: say you are a secretary of a large company and you have an affair with a married coworker. Or, say you are still a secretary but in this scenario you have the affair with the CEO of the company, but he's not married (although he is perhaps dating someone else). Which affair is more wrong? Or are they both the same amount of wrong? Are some animals more equal than others??